Wednesday, 24 February 2021

why most African Men die in their early 60s

Have you ever wondered why most African Men die in their early 60s soon after retirement? Read On To Find Out Why.


The article below is a long read but quite informative and eye-opening. A friend shared this with me and I thought I would share it with you as well. 

Most men always find out the hard way when it’s too late to turn back time. However, if you have found this article and you below 50 years of age, Congratulations Today is the day you turn your life around.


Growing up, I noticed something very interesting: A lot of the men in my town who were in the formal economy and could rely on monthly income, died shortly after coming to retirement, normally between three and five years.

Many of them, would have just semi-completed their building projects (not done but still habitable).

The next thing is for them to finally invest some of their NSSF (National Social Security Fumd) cash into their wives’ business (normally groceries store).

Unfortunately, a couple of them still pay fees of children (normally out of wedlock).

They then suddenly die.

The superstitious inclination of the local folks triggered rumours that the poor widow, the wife “knows something about the death” because she wanted the house and the petty business all for herself.

Sometimes family members would even go and enquire from the oracles what killed their man?

But come to think of it, what really killed these men?

I believe it is the “ pension shock” syndrome:

1. A lot of these men will work for an average of 30 years in the formal sector religiously depending solely on their salaries.

2. Personal savings and investments are very alien to them. They chop everything they earn.

3. They believe their biggest security is their children who will come and take care of them when they are old.

4. There is over reliance on the NSSF & pension Funds. They believe the bulk money will take care of all their problems, including starting/completing their building project.

5. At the peak of their career, they are so indulged in the pleasures of this life, busily funding the “side chick economy” and fathering all manner of children outside their matrimonial homes.

6. Then the day comes, they turn 60. They receive a letter from their employers, it is time to go. Bungalows are vacated, a truck is made ready to transport them back to the destination of choice.

7. Some move to family houses temporarily (or even permanently), others move into their hastily and shabbily completed homes, mainly funded by the proceeds from their pension.

8. Funny enough, they realise there was nothing lumpy about the “lump sum” NSSF paid to them. The money is all gone at this time, and they are forced to solely depend on the monthly pensions, which is a pale version of what they received as working class.

9. Some attempt to farm, with no prior experience, others help casually at their wives’ provision shop, majority sit in their lazy couch most of the day, reading through the dailies with their radio set by them at their porch, intermittently receiving greetings from passers-by.

10. They spiral into bouts of depression when it dawns on them that by being old and broke, they’ve become half (or even less) the men they were. Majority don’t survive this mental turmoil and die before their time.

11. They may also run to contest a chieftaincy stool with the aim of continuing life. The battle of securing the stool coupled with its litigation is also another problem to think of.

So what can we learn from our fathers?

1. Take control of your financial independence. Invest consistently during your working life. NSSF should not be your plan A.

2. Little drops of money wasted today, will cost you your harvest tomorrow. Keep your focus, avoid the “side chicks” and “side children”.

3. Don’t plan your old age around your children, many of them may not find their feet before you die.

4. Set your spouse up early. Invest in her business when you have access to loan facilities and make sure before you go into retirement, the business is already established.

5. Complete your building many years ahead of retirement. Your pension is not meant for that.

6. Get other sources of income. You have decades of your working life to develop a sustainable side business.

Be determined to retire a rich man. After all, the good book says “the righteous man leaves an inheritance for their children’s children.

Nobody is fond of a broke pensioner. Determine not to become one, otherwise, you run the risk of becoming one.

Tuesday, 23 February 2021

Help without insulting

 This is a true story.... People go through alot.... That's why I couldn't stand seeing people undermine those who started CPA direct from A level..... Kindly pick a few lessons


When i joined MTAC  the first person i become friends with was Ann.. She was friends with opio becuase they were tribemates and we werr doing the same course.  Everytime we would miss lectures He would update  us and also make sure we get handouts. I evetually became friends with opio.. We would sit around the MTAC grounds and jazz about so many things but he never opened up about his story. 


Sometimes he would miss lectures becuase he didnt have transport or his uncle in the village had summoned him to go help out on his farm in the village as compensation for paying his tuition.. As usually we would keep him updated in handouts. 


Everything went on well till the last semester when we had to pay registration for the final exams,  opio opened up to Ann how hes uncle had refused to give him tuition and registration unless he worked at his farm for afew months.. We had adeadline for payment and surely he couldnt beat it. 

She pleaded with him not to travel to the vilage because he could surely miss the exams, she suggested to help him pay half of the registration fee but opio declined since he had no means of getting the balance. 


Opio had lost his mom, she never told him who his father was. He tried so much to find out his people but his uncles told him they knew nothing about his dad.  

Since his childhood he was always aslave to his uncle who would make him work on thier farms so they could pay for his tuition.  Being hard working, he had no problems with it until they started Throwing insults at him of how his mom was aslut thats why his father was unknown.. "you will never amount to anything just like your mother"

This didnt go well with Opio.. One day he was tempted to fight back but they stopped him. 

He desperately needed money for his registration and tuition and this is when his uncle broke the final  news.. Of how he wasnt getting any peny till next year. 


Confused desperate with no one to talk to.. He went, bought arope.. Tied it around his neck and climped atree and hunged himself.. Fortunately someone saw him and made an alarm.. They rescued him and took him home. 


From that day Opio was adifferent person.. They kept watch over him for afew days to make sure he doesnt kill himself. 


Afew weeks passed, as he walked around people would talk behind his back.. Life wasnt the same anymore..


 Whenever we tried to call him either his phone wouldnt go through or he wouldnt pick. 


We kept wondering what went wrong with him. 

We completed our final exams but it was painful knowing that Opio had missed. 

Ann decided to travel to Opio's village,  only to find out that he was burried aweek ago..  He finally hunged himself ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ™


Rest well Opio. 


Can we be mindful what we say to people!

Can we help without throwing insults! 

Lets share the burden we feel with others maybe we heal.

Saturday, 20 February 2021

THEY DON’T THINK BEYOND THEIR CERTIFICATES


*1. THEY DON’T THINK BEYOND THEIR CERTIFICATES*

Albert Einstein said, “Education is not the learning of facts, but the training of the mind to think.” Have you ever heard  creativity term “Think outside the box”? One of the major reasons why most graduates are poor is simply because they can’t see and think beyond their certificates. 

I have seen engineering students work as bankers. I have seen medical doctors with great skills in web and graphic designs. I have seen lawyers that are very dexterous with finances. The list is endless!


The basic truth of life is that the skills that are needed to be much sought after and become more successful in life are not really found within the walls of the classrooms. Your certificate is just a proof that you are teachable, it does not suggest what you are totally capable of doing. You are full of possibilities when you think beyond your degrees and certificates.


*2. THEY PRIORITIZE THEIR CERTIFICATES MORE THAN THEIR GIFTS AND TALENTS*


I have often advised some of my colleagues, never to leave their gifts dormant while pursuing and hunting for jobs with their certificates. There must be a complementary balance in the pursuit of your passion and in the search for jobs.


Everybody is gifted for something, but the winning edge comes from our ability to work on our gifts and bless the world with it. The very best way to develop yourself is in the direction of your natural talents and interest. In order to live a fulfilled and impactful life, we need to work harder on our gift than our job. We need to discover our gift, develop it, and sell it. Don’t bury your TALENT with your certificates.


*3. THEIR CERTIFICATES PREPARE THEM FOR A WORLD THAT NO LONGER EXIST*


It has been found that most of the skills taught in schools are becoming obsolete in the present world. The world has changed a lot, and so are people’s need! It is imperative to know that the present form of university education does not prepare students for the future.


Graduates are becoming endangered species in the face of a changing world. Our archaic methods and approaches of learning are preparing graduates for a world that no longer exist, as we are churning out degree holders every year with certificates that have face value but no intrinsic worth. Most learning institutions are filled up with lecturers and pseudo-educators with lecture notes, methods and approaches that have lost relevance in a changing world.


*4. THEY KNOW LESS ABOUT THEMSELVES BUT MORE ABOUT THINGS*


Certificates and degrees don’t reveal people to themselves; they at most measure our IQ (Intelligent Quotient). I have often tell people that there is no Recovery without Discovery. A poor man is simply someone that has not discovered himself.


The more you discover yourself, the more you realize the treasures that are hidden deep within you. We carry inside ourselves latent treasures that can only be unveiled through self-discovery.


*5. CERTIFICATES AND DEGREES CAN KILL INITIATIVES*


Degrees and certificates can close up your minds to ideas while initiatives open it up. If you are not careful, your degrees and certificates can close up your mind. The purpose of education is to keep your mind perpetually opened towards limitless possibilities!


Fred Smith saw an opportunity for overnight delivery of anything anywhere in the USA, and ultra-fast delivery anywhere in the world, FedEx was born. It will be interesting to know that Fred Smith got a grade “C” in a Yale economics class for an idea that the professor belittled as unworkable. 

Fred Smith’s company became the first American business to make over ten billion dollars in annual profit. Beginning with just 186 packages delivered the first night, FedEx now delivers in over two hundred countries using over 6,030 aircraft, 46,000 vehicles and 141,000 employees.


*6. DEGREES AND CERTIFICATES POSITION YOU TO LOOK FOR JOBS AND NOT FOR OPPORTUNITIES*


Our certificates and degrees prepare graduates to look for jobs and not open our eyes to life-changing opportunities. You are not poor because you don’t have a job; you are poor because you are not seeing and seizing opportunities.


Being POOR is simply Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly! What keeps people ahead in life is not their education or degrees, it is simply the opportunity that they seized. Jobs may be scarce but not opportunities.


As long as there is a problem to be solved, there will always be opportunities. It is a waste of our education, exposure, and experiences if after we graduate from school, all we think about is searching for a job. An enlightened and educated mind should be able to see and seize opportunities.


*7. CERTIFICATES AND DEGREES PREPARE PEOPLE TO LOOK FOR SECURITY AND NOT TO TAKE RISKS*


We must be willing to make mistakes and take breakthrough risks. Taking risks and learning from mistakes help us in knowing what works and what does not! When Thomas Edison was being questioned by a mischievous journalist on how he felt for having failed for 999 times before getting the idea of the light bulb, his response stunned the whole world when he confidently said, “I have not failed 999 times, I have only learned 999 ways of how not to make a light bulb”.


Many graduates and degree holders are becoming progressively poor because the skills required in the modern world to get rich are not taught in schools and institutions.


By 2025, we’ll lose over five million jobs to automation. This means that future jobs will look vastly different by the time many people graduate from the university.


*Future jobs will involve KNOWLEDGE PRODUCTION/CREATION* and innovation, and people that are only equipped with skills found in the classroom will definitely be a misfit in an ever-changing world. Skills like critical thinking, creativity, people’s skill, STEM skills (e.g Coding), complex problem-solving skills etc. are central to living a more comprehensive and productive life.


THEREFORE, in conclusion, my humble and candid advice to graduates and students in institutions is to think wide, deep and outside the box. Take voluntary jobs, and don’t be afraid to navigate fields that are different from your field of learning. Your future career will require you to pull information from many different fields to come up with creative solutions to future problems. 

Start by reading as much as you can about anything and everything that interests you. Once you get to college, consider double majoring or minoring in completely different fields. Trust me, it’ll pay off in the long run.


Don’t limit yourself to the classroom. Do something practical. Take a leadership position. Start a business and fail; that’s a better entrepreneurship. Contest an election and lose. It will teach you something political science will not teach you. Attend a seminar. Read books outside the scope of your course.


Think less of becoming an excellent student, but think more of becoming an excellent person. Don’t make the classroom your world, but make the world your classroom. Step forward and try something extra.


Invest in something you believe! Real financial security and freedom is not xx in your job, but in your passion, gifts, talents, and your ability to see and seize opportunities.

Thursday, 18 February 2021

2021 Friends (Season or Reason)


Learn when someone’s role in your life is over and let them go. You’re either helping each other or ruining each other. Discern when someone’s season in your life is over and release them. Else you won’t enter a new season in your life. When you start petty quarrels with your friends, their reason and season in your life may be over. If you hold on to them any longer, you’ll patronize each other’s progress.


While some friends are life-time friends, most people you meet along your way of life are seasonal. Learn to review your associations. Some friends you part ways because of shifting values. Others you part ways because of vision crash. And still others, you part ways because of your own growth. Valuable friendships are idea oriented. With friends who are equally progressive, you can be vulnerable. 


Who are your 2021 friends? Are there relational debts you have Brought Forward (B/F) to 2021? Do you really take stock of the value your friends add or subtract from you? No matter what prophecy you received for 2021, if you don’t review your associations, you’ll have a repeat of your past years. You may turn your calendar leaf but you won’t turn your life around. 


You’ll never rise above your associations. Your level of association determines your destiny. The income range of your best three friends is likely to be within 10% variance. If you truly want to know your values, cross-examine your friends. If you truly want to move to your next level, groom new relations. Associate more closely with people who don’t know your historical baggage.  


From 2021, don’t walk with people who judge you from your history. Don’t try to prove anything to your relatives and childhood friends. Don’t try to convince your high-school mates anything. Don’t compete with your collegemates. It’s pointless. Many of your former colleagues don’t appreciate your growth. You don’t need to persuade them. Simply hang out with those who see the 2021 Version of YOU. 


Tuesday, 16 February 2021

Be a solution, an encouragement and inspiration. Avoid being a leech, a user or nagger.

 

There is something in life called "Social Capital." The people you know; the  people who know you and how they know you. 

Quite unfortunately, people think or behave like social capital is only needed on weddings and burials. That is why you see someone will not have contacted you in ten years but out of the blue they are sending you a message, "Hello so and so, long time. Btw, next Sunday is my pre-wedding. I need your support."!


Social capital is not built overnight; it is reciprocal and does not need money (especially in this virtually connected world) to build. It just needs being sensitive that people have emotions and that you can't sneak into their lives only when you need help.


Social capital is massively important and when built and used correctly, it can make a very big difference to one's quality of life. It can save you money, make you money, get you a better job, make things easier and safer, it can save you from prison, or save your life: it can save you time and effort, and make life more enjoyable and productive.


As we progress through the year, please learn to connect with people in your circles. Check on people, send someone a birthday message, check their timelines and comment something positive and inspirational. Pick your phone and call someone,  or text them. It could be your relative,  your colleague,  your former schoolmate, a former or current boss, your CEO, your parents etc.


Creating a connection with people is important for building your social capital. And even if they don't respond, at least keep in touch and don't just reach out when you are in need.


Most importantly, respect everyone no matter their status in life and be there when others need you. Be a solution, an encouragement and inspiration. Avoid being a leech, a user or nagger. Just be a nice person who in a calculated way stays in touch with people and brings joy, encouragement and hope.


The most important asset you have in life is not your job, money or title; its people. Your network is your networth.


Have a Blessed Connective Life.

Monday, 15 February 2021

The egg seller

She (Buyer) asked him, 'How much are you selling the eggs for?'

The old seller replied, '$.25 an egg, Madam.'

She said to him, 'I will take 6 eggs for $1.25 or I will leave.'

The old seller replied, 'Come take them at the price you want. Maybe, this is a good beginning because I have not been able to sell even a single egg today.'


She took the eggs and walked away feeling she has won. She got into her fancy car and went to a posh restaurant with her friend. There, she and her friend, ordered whatever they liked. They ate a little and left a lot of what they ordered. Then she went to pay the bill. The bill costed her $45.00 She gave $50.00 and asked the owner of the restaurant to keep the change.


This incident might have seemed quite normal to the owner but, very painful to the poor egg seller.


The point is,

Why do we always show we have the power when we buy from the needy ones? And why do we get generous to those who do not even need our generosity?


I once read somewhere:


'My father used to buy simple goods from poor people at high prices, even though he did not need them. Sometimes he even used to pay extra for them. I got concerned by this act and asked him why does he do so? Then my father replied, "It is a charity wrapped with dignity, my child”


I know most of you won't share this message but if you feel that people need to see this, then do spread this message.

Sunday, 14 February 2021

His Journey to Jinja

 Ziipu (Zip) ekankwaata, yanyaaza


Omumwaka gwa 1990, that is a cool 30 years ago, nkaba ndyomwegyi omu siniya ya kabiri at Jinja Senior Secondary School in Jinja. I looked like this. This was the passport size photo in my Student ID.


 Ndamanya ngu some of you were not born, or mukaba mukyayanjura murazanira omumucuucu, konka itwe ba kaaha keira tukaba twatambwiire kuruga Kabale twahikire Busoga.


My journey to Jinja came during the Xmas holidays of 1988 when shwento who had lived in Jinja for many years, returned for the holiday and decided to take me along with him.


Nkaba mazire P7, banyesire kuza kwegyera Kigezi College Butobere, Siniya, and even my admission letter, which then was known as 'Call' had come.


Tukabitamu engeito, bus ya People's twagitembera omurubaju, twagukwata ogwa Buganda na Busoga. We left Bukinda stage 3am buri kusheesha, enkoko zitaniire. Eshaaki yeitu niyo yatwimukize yatandika kubika ngu kukurikoooo!

In those years, the road network was so por with many potholes. It took you an entire day to travel from Kabale to Kampala, a journey that today takes about 6 hours.


In some cases, buses would be stop in a place called Kinoni in former greater Masaka, spend a night and connect the following day. The reason for this was because of insecurity especially due to the presence of rebels of Herbert Itongwa, a rebel leader that plied the swamps of Katonga.


When we boarded the bus, my uncle wanted to hide me ngu ndi omwana and as such to be exempt from paying the transport fare. Atyo, anta omumkwahwa ntambura ndotami ngu ndebeke nkankaana kagufu. It is also true ngu nkaba ndimugufu, but at 13 years, I wasn't a baby.

When my uncle sat down, he held me between his legs. Then the bus set off. After Muhanga, an inspector entered and smoked me out.

"Ogu timwaana, ayine kushashura," he told my uncle.

"Come here," he said.

My uncle insisted that I was young and not old enough to pay.

At this point, the conductor decided to do test on determining whether I was old enough to pay the fare or not.

"Reeta omukono" he instructed me.

"Gwereeze ogurabye eheiguru yomutwe oyekwate aha kutu," he said.

I raised my right hand over my head and touched my big left ear.

"Tiwareeba!"

"Nikakuru," he declared.

Apparently, the only sure way of telling whether one was old enough to pay transport charges was whether he or she could touch their ear from above their heads.

My uncle pleaded and was allowed to pay half fare for me.

Kutwahikire Lukaya, bus ekemereera twaza kunia no kunyaara. Nyowe oruhago rukaba ruri heihi kubaruka. When I tried to quickly open the zip, ekankwata, yanrya akanankani.

 Remember most kids those day never wore pajemas. I was not an exception. If a zip has ever 'eaten' you, you know the pain I am talking about.


Nkanena eriino, nasheesha, reero ahanyima nashumurura ziipu mporampora until it released me.


After that, uncle akangurira ekifu kyenkoko eyokize hamwe na muhogo yembumburi, ntyo ngizaho nguguguna. We arrived in Kampala at around 8pm, omwirima gwakwasire, konka amashanyarazi garaaka.


Kutwahikire Namirembe Hill, nkaranza eseeri hariyo ekyombeko kiriho amataara gamaani garaaka.

When I asked my uncle, he told me that that was Uganda House, the building that houses UPC eya Uganda Congress of Milton Obote.

What amazed me most, nokushaamaara kweena was a word that kept moving around the building in bright lights, reading that : Drink Bell, for a Good Night and a Good Morning."

From Kampala, we drove through Mukono, the famous Mabira Forest and by around 10pm, we were crossing the Owen Falls Dam, over River Nile into Jinja proper.

My Jinja experiences and exploits are in our book, Waringa and Other Stories...

Saturday, 13 February 2021

Gambling taught me the hard lesson

 


We arrived in Jinja at People's Bus Terminal, around Lubas Road at 10pm in 1989. It was in early January. It was raining heavily and we had two pieces of luggage, ebitundu, one containing Irish potatoes, emondi zamukooreeka and the other dried peas.


We alighted, reero uncle yampa the smaller luggage of peas, and he carried the Irish potatoes.


Tukatambura kuruga Jinja town up to Masese landing site, a distance of about 5 kilometers. I fell into stagnant water in the potholes because as we walked through the dark alleys,  stagnant water looked like dry land.


Jinja nkarebayo ebintu byingi, konka erizooba kambagambiire, let me tell you about one experience that taught me a hard lesson that I will never forget.


Shwento akantungira omwanya in Jinja Secondary School, natandiika senior one.


At that time, Jinja SSS was the biggest school in terms of population, in the whole country, some even say in East and Central Africa.

 The school had a total enrollment of 4500 students--enkumi ina nabitaano. Omu senior one alone, tukaba turi 480 students. We had twelve streams in senior one, from A to M. At the end of first term, I was number one in S1B. Nkabasinga nabagarika hari.


Eizooba rimwe, shwento akampa esente kuza omukatare, Jinja Central Market, to pay and collect my school uniform hamwe nebindi bintu.


Nkaruga omuuka, omukasheeshe, natambura naaza omu tauni. When I crossed the railway line after a place called Kazimingi--those who know Jinja know this place--it used to have many maize milling machine. This is where we used to buy kawunga for mingling. Our major food then was kawunga and mpuuta.


This place also was the stage where people going to Walukuba and Masese boarded taxis from. It perhaps had the oldest vehicles plying any route in Jinja. Ebimotoka bikaba bikuzire, majority of them, old and tired beetles, ebikyere, Volkswagen, that when you entered, you literally could see the ground through the holes on the floor of the vehicles.


Some people often joked that if the breaks failed, the driver would ask passengers to pull out their feet onto the ground through the holes, to cause the car to grind to a halt.


Anyway, across Kazimingi was a dusty taxi park where vehicles plying long distances to Kamuli, Wairaka, Mafubira, Budumburi and other places would pick passengers from.


It is here that I found a man, surrounded by several other people, playing what looked like a lucrative game.


He has a small table and three cards-matatu, chanisi cards. The cards liked identical on the top, but inside, they were different.

The game was known as wakareeba, okalabye, okabwoine. The game master would speak the language of the majority of the people that sorrounded him or who joined to play the game.


The rules were simple: Two of the cards had no image on them. Only one had a drawing.

 He would shuffle the cards while singing: bwotekka wanno offirwa, bwotekka wanno offuna,  and ask you ngu, nooha owakareeba? Who has spotted it?


If you were convinced that you had seen which of the three cards had the drawing, you would put  money on top of that card, and if you got it right, you would win double the amount of money placed, betted.


Good deal? Yes, it looked.


I stood and watched and watched contemplating whether I should use the money my uncle had given me to multiply it and make a profit.


As I looked, two men came and played and won, and left.


Then another one came and looked at me and said, "young man, you look lucky today, if you play, you will win."


I listened to my heart and believed him.

I watched closely and got absolutely sure that I had seen it.


I placed 500 shillings. He turned the cards and I was wrong. It was potea. He took it.

I was now 500 shillings less and couldn't therefore buy what I had been sent to buy.

I stood still, nkomuti gwamashanyarazi, wondering what do to next.

"Try one more time, you will be lucky," another muyaye who came around told me.


I watched the man shuffle the cards, and this time I was absolutely sure I had seen it.

I placed another 500. It was again, a miss.

The second loss hit me so hard. I now could not even buy half of what I had been sent to you.

What would I tell my uncle, I contemplated. Would I tell him the truth about what had happened or was I to manufacture a lie?

The man who was operating the wakareeba now seemed to pity me. He looked at me closely and suggested another robbery trick.

"You can also use your watch to win," he said .

He valued the Disco watch I had on my wrist at 2000.

I thought hard and it looked like a possible final move to salvage my loss.

"I could be lucky this last time," I said to myself.

Slowly, I removed the watch from my arm, held it in my hands, said a prayer and looeor at the cards even more closely.

The man shuffled the cards slowly, as if to give me a chance, to this time get it right.

He placed them face down.

"Make your pick," he said, before adding: "This time, if you fail on the first attempt,I will give you another free chance." He was speaking in Lusoga "ndakuwa omurundi ogundi,"

Hesitantly, I placed the watch on the card that I was sure was the one. The master slowly reached out, turned it upside, and I was wrong..The third time. The third loss.

"Try your luck on the remaining two cards," he offered omurundi ogundi.

I placed my hand on another card. He flipped it up, and I was wrong again.

At that point I did not even wait. I simply took off, running back home with no uniform, not groceries, no money and no watch. I later learnt that the two men who played and won, were actually playing a syndicate. They were part of the robbery team staged to give the game some semblance of credibility.


From that day, over 30 years ago, whenever I find people gambling, betting here or there, whether it is in a casino or on the streets, I look the other way and walk away as fast as I can. Gambling!

Thursday, 11 February 2021

Luganda

 EMBOOZI EZITANYUMIZIKA - EKITUNDU (Episode) 9


OMUWALA EYATULIKA NGA BBOMU MU SSANTIRI (Akatundu II)


Twaleka nnyimirizza Doreen, eyali ava ku mulimu akawungeezi nga ntandise okumutokota era nga mmusabye akkirize mmuwerekereko. Bino bye byaddirira....


Doreen yanziramu nti, “Kyokka bannange, Hmmnh, olina ebigambo bingi bulala! Olwo omperekera wa eyo gy’omanyi?” Ko nze nti, “Ewuwo.” Omuwala kwe kumbuuza nti, “Simanyi oli ‘student’ wa wano? Naye nga sikumanyi era sikulabangako? Abaana ba wano bonna mbamanyi.” Ko nze nti, “Era kyenkana ndi ‘student’ naye nze ndowooza ssinga wakkirizza ne nkusitulirako ebintu, twandibadde na kati tutuuse.” Omukazi kwe kukola kye nnali simusuubira, n’ankwasa ekiveera ekya kiragala omwali ebintu bye saategeera. Oba yali asibye mmere!? Hahaha!


Twatambula bw’ambuuza nti, “Kati erinnya lyange walitegeerera wa ggwe atali w’eno? Ate tonnimba, kuba nze sikulabangako. Mpulidde ompita erinnya ate nga nze sikumanyi.” Ko nze nti, “Erinnya ly’omukyala asinga obulungi ku kitundu teriyinza butamanyibwa.” Doreen yaseka n’agamba nti, “Hahaaa, naye bannange! Wanzijiridde leero musajja ggwe nno! Ye kati bwe bansanga nga njogera naawe era nga tutambula, ne bakumbuuza erinnya olwo mbagamba ki?” Ko nze nti, “Mpita Mesach.” Edda nalina omuze gw’okuwa abantu abatammanyi erinnya eryo, ate awamu nga nkozesa lya Mulindwa ne tugendera awo.


Doreen yasulanga munda mu yunivaasite era bwe yali atuuse ewuwe mu mmita nga kikumi (100) okuva ne we twali tuvudde, n’antegeeza nti, “Ssebo…., eh, mpozzi waล‹ล‹ambye ggwe Mesach? Nze ntuuse ewange. Mpa ebintu byange, nkusiibule.” Namugamba nti, “Nga sinnagenda, nsaba okkirize nkukube akaama.” Doreen yaddamu nga bwe yeekunkumula nti, “Bandaba nno! Ssebo ggwe, gwe simanyi onkube akaama, e eh kyokka bannange!”

 


Nayanukula n’obuwombeefu bwe nnali sikozesangako nti, “Naye Doreen naaweeeee, kati akaama obwama kaliko ki? Kkiriza nkukube akaama. Oba nfukamire, nnyabo?” Doreen yantegeeza nti mbimugambire awo, ekirungi tewali awulira mulala naye nti tajja kukkiriza kumwogerera mu kutu. Namusaba essimu ye n’anziramu nti eri wala mu nsawo ye, ne mmuddamu nti, “Sitegeeza ssimu yo yennyini, wabula ennamba yo.” Awo kwe kunsekerera, “Hehehehehe, otegeeza nnamba? Kati ogyagaza ki ggwe, gwe simanyi? Oyagala kunguza bakisalamutwe?”


Ekiwala kyandoobya nnyo ekiro ekyo mu keezi akaali kaaka nga kuggulu tekuli wadde akale akasirikitu, naye oluvannyuma munda yange ne nneesunako nti olaba kimpa obudde obwo bwonna, kitegeeza nja kukimegulako ettofaali munne w’ettafaali. Nasikayo essimu yange ne nfukamira nga bwe kindagira okusitukawo mangu naye nze nga sibiwulira. Nafukamira ne nkisaba kiwandiike nnamba yaakyo ku ssimu yange, era bwe kyakkiriza, ne nneebaza byansusso. Awo kwe kukigamba nti, “Kati nga sinnagenda, nsaba okkirize nkukube akaama kange akasembayo awo nkuleke.” 


Doreen yanziramu nti, “Vva wano, bajja kukukubira bwereere ate nkuleetere ebizibu by’otoosobole.” Ko nze nti, “Ku ggwe ne bwe bankuba biba binnyumira kuba baba bankubira nnalulungi w’oku kitundu n’eggwanga lyonna.” 


Ye bannange, nga sinneeyongerayo, ka nkikinale mbuuze nti, mulitegeka ddi empaka z’obwannalulungi ne sserulungi w’oku mukutu guno? Tulina wano envubuka ennangavvu ne baanabawala abalungi lwondo. Mujje muzitegeke nga nze kamwakoogera naawe ffe basazi baazo. Hahahaha! Ka nzireyo ku mboozi, temugambira awo nti leero sirina bye nnazze kunyumya.


Omuwala yateekawo okutu naye mba nsembera okumukuba akaama ate n’akuggyawo nga bw’agamba nti, “Ye ng’opapa bulala? Nze lindako! Oyagala kunkuba kigwo?” Namuddamu nti, “Nedda sweet, sisobola kukugwira. Teekawo okutu nkubuulire.” Yateekawo okutu ne mmukuba akaama nti, “Doreen, nkwagala. Nzikiriza enkya nkulabeko mpe obujulizi eri ensi n’eggulu nti…” Teyaล‹ล‹anya kubimalayo n’aggyawo okutu n’anziramu nti, “Kale ssebo, mbitegedde. Kati genda. Sula bulungi Miisaaki.”


Namwagaliza ekiro ekirungi naye nga ล‹ล‹enze simazeeyo kye njagala kumugamba ate nga simanyi oba enkya anakkiriza okundaba. Enkeera nakeera kukubira Doreen era essimu yagikwata n’aล‹ล‹amba mmukubireko edda, nange kye nakola. Wabula kw’olwo teyalabikako wadde nga twateesa aw’okusisinkana akawungeezi ng’annyuse. Natuula mu kirabo ky’emmere ekya Maama Isma ne nkonkomalira omwo, okutuusa lwe nnennyula ne nvaawo!


Nga wayise ebbanga, namukubira essimu n’antegeeza nti yabyerabidde. Nalina okudda mu kibuga nkole era enkeera ku Ssande, Doreen namulumba bweru wa ‘ddayiningi’ n’antegeeza nti tantegeera bulungi naye mmuwe obudde yeerowooze. Naddayo e Kampala nga omutima guntundugga kuba ‘ekintu’ nnali nkirekedde agasajja agatali gangu ku kyalo! 


Buli lunaku nakubiranga Doreen essimu era olunaku lwe twalagaana ajje mu kibuga mmutwaleko ‘awutu’ ku bbiici, nalwetegekera ng’agenda okumala omujiji oboolyawo n’okusingako anaabaaga. Nagamba nti abawala bano oluusi balimba era kye nakola kwe kugenda butereevu mu kyalo mmukimeko. Namubuuza oba taakole kw’olwo n’antegeeza nti buli wiiki bawummulamu ennaku bbiri ate ne wabaawo omulala amutuulirawo. 


Namubuuza by’akola n’antegeeza nti omulimu gwe gwa kubala mmere abayizi gye balya n’okukola ku by’okugigula wadde ng’olumu ayambako mu kutegeka ddayiningi n’oluusi okwenyigira mu kufumba. Twagenda ku bbiici ya Sese Gateway kuba gye nnali ntegeera obulungi anti natwalangayo nnyo agaduuda. Doreen yeepiika ebbidde nange ne ntya nga simanyi bwe tugenda kudda mu kyalo. 


Ku olwo nakuuma obuntubulamu era nalina ekimotoka ki Premio ekikaddekadde. Omwo mwe namuteeka ne nkivulumula akawungeezi ako okuzza Doreen mu kyalo naye nga ebbidde limusibye enkalu. Ekimotoka nnali sikivugangako kukitwala lugendo lwa mu kyalo naye nayambibwa ne tutuuka bulungi kyokka nga sisobola kusitula Doreen eyali atamidde era nga yeebakidde muli munda nninga atwala omugugu! 


Nnali simanyi bwe mpita ku ggeeti ya yunivaasite n’eggwala kyokka bwe nasangawo munywanyi wange Ssentumbwe, bwe twazirunda, twayogeramu bitono n’anzikiriza okuyingira nga mmulimbye nti nzizaayo omu ku bakozi b’omwo mulamu wange awummuddemu mu mutto gw’emabega tuva ku mbaga mu kibuga. Teyatawaana na kukebera, ng’andeka nga mpitawo nga nserengesa lintu lyange.


Nagezaako okuzuukusa Doreen kyokka nga yenna tategeera biri ku nsi. Oluvannyuma yazibulamu katono ne mmubuuza awali ebisumuluzo  kyokka ng’avuya buvuya. Nakwata ensawo ye ne nkebera ebisumuluzo, olwo ne nneebagajja lintu lyange ne ndiyingiza mu kasirise. Ekyannyamba tewali yatulaba, mpozzi nga baali mu madirisa na bumooli nga mwe balingiririza. 


Najja nneesunze okutiiya Doreen ekitiiyo naye akinnyonnyoke oba kale nze waakiri nkinnyonnyoke naye bwe mmutuusa bwe nti mu ntebe, ne ntandika okumuweeweeta ate awo n’awaliramu katono. Ku budde obwo yali asiiya busiiya nga ansaba kimu ndeke kumukolako mikolo, nnindeko. “Miisaaki, naawe! Sooka olindemuuko. Kale lindako nnina kye nkugamba. Ayiiii, sooka oleke naaweeee!” Namugamba nti, “Kale nkulese nno mbuulira ky’oล‹ล‹amba.”


Awo Doreen, eyabuulukuka ng’amenvu ga ndiizi yenna ng’abulako kuliibwa, kwe kwogera nti, “Hmmnh, kyokka ggwe mwana ggwe…” Awo ne ntwala olugalo okuluyisa mu bisambi nga bwe yeekuniza ate nga bw’asiita ebigere n’okuntangira nti, “Nedda, sooka olindeko! Mpulira ebintu ebyo mbitya! Leka nno tuteese naaweee….” Olwo nno ng’omukono gwange ogubadde gwolekera obwengula, agunywerezza awo mu gasambi agaboobevu agabuguma tayagala gweyongereyo.  Ku budde obwo nnali ntetenkanya we nnyinza kugula bupiira si kulwa nkalakata ekintu ekinanzaalira ebitukula. 


Wabula mu kulwana ennyo nga Doreen anneegayirira tuteese, engalo zange zeesogga awali omukwesese gw’emmese ya Doreen. Nagenda okuwulira nga mpulirayo ekikaluba. Okukwatako obulungi nga omukulu ali mu ndoobe (pad) abagenyi bakamyufu baamukyalidde era nga simanyi lwe balikyaluka. Natya nnyo era n’ekyagala kyanzigwako. Nafuluma ne ngulira Doreen amata ku kantiini ssaako amenvu ne kkeeki bye yantuma.


Namusiibula ne nzikirira ewa Maama nneebake. Omukadde namugwako bugwi era yeewuunya nnyo obutamutegeezaako nti nzija, ne mmulimba nti nsiibye mu nnimiro yange ku kyalo Mawu era obudde gye bunzibiddeko nga njigga basajja abanaasaawa ensiko mu kitundu ekyali kiduumye omuddo. 


Doreen ndowooza bwakya alowooza nze era essimu ye ye yampawamula mu kirooto kye nnali ndoota nga ndya ennyama y’akamyu. Yanneebaza okumutwalako ‘awutu’ era n’anneetondera olw’okunkomya ku njokye nti naye bambi si bwe yali ayagadde, kyokka n’ansuubiza okunzikakkanya ku lwakiriro mu bwangu ddala.

 


Naddayo ewuwe ne mmulabako ne nnywaayo ka caayi oluvannyuma ne mmukwanga emitwalo ena, n’afukamira okwebaza! Nagamba nti oba mpase ono anzaalire ebyana ebirungi, anti nga ndaba n’empisa zimuyisa kuli! Omukazi afukamirafukamira atyo nzijukira yali Nakimuli, gwe nnali nfunidde ku mupiira e Namboole. Bannange Nakimuli, ow’omu katale k’e Kireka, yali afukamira, ho! Nga buli kimu afukamira, kyokka nga tetuli na bafumbo! Oyo nno naye yawooma n’asukka. Oba yalaga wa? Mmaze emyaka 10 simuwuliza.


Nadda mu kkekete lyange ne ndikalakata okudda ku kibuga nga tulagaanye ku wiikendi eddako tusisinkane. Wabula Doreen yankubira essimu nga nnaakatuuka n’antegeeza nti yeetegerezza nga ajja kuba ‘off’ (ajja kutwala ennaku ze ez’okuwummulamu) ku Lwokutaano n’Olwomukaaga oluddako era namulaalika nti mmweetegekedde ng’ensanafu bwe zeetegekera omutamiivu ekiro.

 


Ku olwo nannyuka mangu ne nzira awaka era nga obumere bwange bwonna obwali butera okunkyalira ku wiikendi mbuyimirizza n’okububikira nga bwe nfiiriddwa mu kyalo nti ล‹ล‹enze kuziika. Eggwala lino Erinyarwanda nalikima ku siteegi awo e Wankulukuku ne tugenda awaka ku makya. 


Nagenda ndiwaana nti, “Ffiga yonna na buli kirungi ekiri ku bamalayika baabibaggyako ne babiwa ggwe!” Nga nno lyo bwe lyesesa nti, “Hmmnh, Kyokka ggwe nno! Hmmnh! Nze ndeka onoonya okundyako ebyange by’otonnasasulira ewaffe!” Ko nze nti, “Yiiyii, ogenze okuntunuulira nga ndabika okukulyako ebibyo? Ggwe naawe togenda kundya?”


Awo kwe kunziramu nti, “Yiii, ggwe oyagala okundya kyokka mpulira nkutidde. Laba bw’ondeese ne gye simanyi! Oba kiki ekindiko? N’engeri gye nzize wano sigitegedde! Simanyi Misaaki oli mulogo nga wandoga?”Ko nze nti, “Nange simanyi. Naye weebale kujja kundabako na kusalawo osuleko ewange.” Doreen awo yanziramu nti, “Bakazi bo tebansanga ne bankubira wano?”

 


Awo kwe kumukakasa, kyokka nga mmudyekadyeka n’okumusiikasiika ssaako okumukuba adiisi nti sirina bawala, nti abakazi baali bantama era nti bulijjo nnoonya mukazi omutuufu, bwentyo akageri ke nfunye ye, nti awo omutima gunzise era gundi wamu ka twagalane batubaggyemu embaawo. “Akageri ke nkufunye, ggwe nkwesoose era nkubuukinze. Ekyo ne mu ggulu bakiwandiise!” olwo anti ntabbira eggwala Erinyarwanda nga bwe tuyingira mu nju nzenna nfa ejjakirizi. 


Doreen yanziramu nti, “Kyokka bannange! Nze tonsesa. Ombuukinze, ogenze okulaba nga ndi ndibota?” Awo ne tuseka ne tuyingira ne nsooka nkweka mangu akagatto k’oluwala lu Fiona olw’e Rakai, ebiseera ebyo olwateranga okunkyalira. Lwali lwerabira omugogo gw’engatto zaalwo era emu eyali eringiza nagisindika wansi w’entebe nga Doreen tagirabye. 


Nayagala ntandikirewo naye Doreen n’aล‹ล‹amba nti, “Kkakkana. Wano sigenda kuvaawo. Opapa ki ng’ate okimanyi nti ndi wa kusula onkole buli kimu ky’oyagala? Kyokka bannange Misaaki?” Twasookera mu byakulya kyokka ne nzijukira nti sirinaawo ggirikooti. Nneefuula aliko kye nkimye ku dduuka era awali ‘pharmacy’ okumpi we bammanyi, nayitawo buyisi si kulwa bansunga! Awo nneeyongerayo eyo ku kkubo eriyita emabega w’ekisaawe ky’e Wankulukuku, gye nagula ggirikooti nga nzenna nneebisse akakoofiira ate nnyambadde gujjaketi saagala bandabe mu maaso.


Nagulayo bu kkaadi bwa matatu era twasooka kukuba matatu nga ndekera Doreen n’ampangula, nsobole okumusanyusa. Twanyumirwa nnyo naye nga nze nfa ejjakirizi nga nninda ssaawa yokka eri eyalagirwa. 


Nagenda okukwata ku Munyarwanda wange nga yayidde dda! Okumusitula w’abadde atudde nga wonna wasaze ogupaapi ogunene ne ล‹ล‹amba nti luno luno, ho! 


Okumwebasa ku kitanda, yafuuwa aga ttaapu nga galinga olukka ne gagwa emirannamiro w’ekitanda, ne njula okugwamu ekisujja ky’ekitengo. Nagamba nti, ono anaasoboka ono, eh!! Bukya ndya myungu ku luno nno kirabika ล‹ล‹enda kumeketa butanga!


Ebyaddirira bya nkya oba luli. Mubeere bulungi!

HOME BASED BUSINESS

 If Rent is one of your biggest problem, I suggest you start a #Home_based_BUSINESS, Reasons for this are:-  

1. Instead of choosing the first business that comes to mind, take time to explore various options. Check out other business ideas! Read books providing ideas for possible home-based or small business, and trade magazine articles on trends and market demands. With the phenomenal growth of the Internet, information is now literally at the tip of your fingertips. Write every idea down on a note book since you may forget some ideas if not written down. Always have/move with a pen and a notebook so as to note down every new idea you develop in your mind.


2. Find out what type of business appeals to you most.  Determine your goals, interests, wants and capabilities. You can turn your fascination for miniature shoes into a business; or your skill and expertise in designing graphics into a fledging business enterprise. The important thing is that you must enjoy your business. The most successful entrepreneurs feel passionate about what they are doing. You cannot feel passionate (and hence more driven) about your business if you do not like it! Choose a business that most interests you and which you enjoy and feel proud doing.


3. Choose a business that will be personally satisfying as well as profitable. While you may have passion for your hobby or craft, always consider its business potentials. Do you think there is a demand for it? Will it bring you recurring income? How saturated is the market? Are there barriers to entry? Will you have economies of scale? Start a business that you think has a solid potential to be profitable. You will need to do a lot of pencil pushing and calculating to determine the financial viability of a business. This will entail analyzing your market and conducting a break-even analysis, a preliminary financial projection that shows you the amount of revenue you'll need to bring in to cover your expenses. 


4. Think whether you can and want to handle every aspect of the business. When you start your new small business, you may not have the luxury of a full-time staff complement to help out in some aspects of the business. Instead of simply focusing on the strategic direction of the business, you may be required to collect receivables, track expenses, cold call customers, and do thousands of other tasks. Be aware of the other tasks that you have to do in your business. Find out if you will need assistance of other people or if you will have to work alone, in fact predetermine the number of employees you will need.

5. Draw a layout of your intended work area to see how it will fit into its allotted space into your home. Remember, you are starting a business at home to save on overhead costs, so make use of every possible nook and cranny that you can use in your house. If you want to start a cake decorating business, you need to have a large kitchen. Forget about starting a dance instruction class if you live in a studio apartment! Consider the space you have in relation to the business type you intend to set up.

6. Make sure the business meets high safety standards, especially if you have children at home. This is particularly essential if your business deals and uses chemicals and other harmful substances. For instance, keep all the chemicals used for a carpet or upholstery cleaning business in a safe place in the garage beyond the reach of children. Also poisonous items could be labeled and marked or kept in separate safe apartment.

7. Check with an insurance agent to determine the kind of insurance coverage the business is going to need. It is good planning to determine what insurance is necessary to minimize your risks and protect your business. General categories of insurance include property, licensing, liability, health, disability, workers' compensation, and life insurance. 

8. Ensure compliance with zoning laws and ordinances in your area. Visit your city hall or the planning office to see whether zoning regulations would prevent you from selecting a specific location. Carefully note the regulations governing business signs and types of businesses that are allowed at different locations. You do not want the city hall folks to come knocking down at your door asking you to cease operations after you have spent thousands decorating and equipping your business! Set up your business in accepted locations for example certain streets may may be for specific types of businesses while limiting others.

9. Select a business whose organizational characteristics are compatible with yourself or your family. You should select a business that fits well with the schedule of your family. If you have a newborn baby in the house and your husband works full time, you should look for a business that would allow you to take care of your baby. Businesses that would compel you to actively seek clients out like a real estate endeavor may not be suited for you at this point. 

10. Get your family members involved in the business and have fun together working for its success! Every telecommuter dreams of merging home and office, career and family into a symbiotic blend of harmonious bliss. It is not always easy, but one way will be to involve your family in your home business. During summer, you can ask your kids to help in the packing of your product. Or your teen son can help design your Web site. Your spouse can help in negotiating with your clients. The most important thing, though, is that everyone in your family enjoys working in your business...

Wednesday, 10 February 2021

WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN

 *WHAT A HUSBAND NEEDS FROM A WIFE IS NEVER SEX*


Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.


When you look at how agressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married, sex is never what he needs from you – maybe let me say it better; “WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX.”


Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experienced they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their body it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.


There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex was all that mattered to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue, and for reasons beyond imagination, a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage hit the rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.


The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, “Every woman has private parts but not every woman has humility.” So when you are a humble woman, you are expensive jewelry, and a man of integrity will fear to lose you.


What does the Holy Book say? “Wife, submit to your husband.” The reason is that a man’s true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.


Sadly, many young ladies nowadays see submission as “control.” And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, “As for me I don’t want any man to control me oh.”


If you don’t want to submit don’t think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.


When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love, and love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African Queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don’t forget that it is the spirit of humility that has made many maids hijack their mistresses’ husbands. Be your man’s queen and be his maid also.

TeamWork is key

 *In one village, there is a handsome and intelligent man named James. He is very clean and dresses well. He also speaks English and French very fluently.*

 

*Usually, when someone dies, the whole village will gather, and able-bodied young men will dig the grave, bury the corpse and cover it very well. The women will prepare abacha' while the men will come with kegs of palm wine. It is very well organized, communally. Everyone plays his/her part to make the burden light for the bereaved family.*

 

*Every time this occurred, James came with a newspaper. He would find a very comfortable position, sit, and cross his legs, reading the newspaper while others worked on the grave. There seemed to be nothing wrong with this, as there were plenty hands on the job.*

 

*One day, James’ father kicked the bucket. What a day! The whole village gathered as usual. But there was something strange about the gathering. Guess what? Every young man came there well dressed, with a newspaper and a chair. They all sat down and were reading newspapers! In fact, Onyema who did not break slate way back primary school days also had one, even though he held it upside down.*

 

*There was an uneasy calm that enveloped the atmosphere. The environment was hot, even though it was early in the morning during the harmattan season. The dice was cast. It was payback time. James was about to receive the reward of his actions over the years.*

 

*And so, the corpse was there, but no one was digging the grave. James came out of the house and saw the situation. He was helpless. He is the only young man in the family. His other two siblings are girls. He broke down and wept like a child. He wept not for the dead but for himself. He realized that he was a living dead man. He pleaded for mercy to no avail. Finally, he dug the grave alone while others read their newspapers.*

 

*TeamWork is key, and no one should be useless in a group/team. Make meaningful contributions to your family/association/clubs/class/groups/team etc that you belong to and work hard not to be the weakest link in any group/family/team. That way, the group gets better, stronger and successful for everyone.* 

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Monday, 8 February 2021

DO NOT JUDGE ON ANYONE

Today’s Christian Article.

✍️There was an aged artist who lived in a small village. The man used to design beautiful artistic works to be sold at an attractive price.


✍️One day, a poor man among the villagers challenged the old man saying: "You earn a lot of money from your handiwork but why don't you assist poor people in the village?


๐Ÿ‘‰Can’t you see that the butcher is not as rich as you are, but he still shares free meat to the poor people in the village?


๐Ÿ‘‰Also, look at the village baker. He is a poor man with a large family. Yet he gives the poor people free loaves of bread".


✍️The artist did not respond angrily to the accusations. He only smiled.


✍️The poor man was confused about the reaction of the artist so he left him and went out spreading rumors that the artist was so rich, but he was a selfish person who only accumulated wealth and refused to help the poor.


✍️The villagers hated the old artist and they all forsook him.


✍️The old artist became sick and could not do anything for himself but nobody among the villagers cared to visit him or helped him so he died a lonely old man. 


✍️The days passed by and the villagers observed that the butcher stopped free distribution of meat and the baker could not give the poor people free loaves of bread any more.


✍️When the butcher and the baker were asked why they stopped helping the villagers, they said that: "the old artist used to donate money every month to pay for the free meat and bread to the poor people in the village. Now that he was dead, there was nobody to pay for the free food anymore"


LESSON TO  LEARN 


✍️Many people may have wrong impressions and different opinions about you.


✍️But do not allow any of them to influence or destroy who you are.


๐Ÿ‘‰Do not pass judgment on anyone based on his physical appearance or what people say about him.


๐Ÿ‘‰There are things about his personal life you do not know.


๐Ÿ‘‰If you were privileged to know about them, your judgment would surely be different.


PRACTICAL  EXAMPLE 


 ๐Ÿ‘‰If  A man died in a drinking place  or dance hall.


 ๐Ÿ‘‰Another person died in the Church. 


๐Ÿ‘‰If you were to judge them, you would say that the 1st man died a sinner and the 2nd man died a righteous man.


✍️But the 1st man entered the drinking place or dance hall to preach against sin and the 2nd man entered the Church to steal offering from the church.


✍️For this reason, you and I cannot judge or decide who goes to heaven or who goes to hell.


๐Ÿ‘‰Fear God in your privacy and 

     Fear God in the public.


✍️ Human physical appearance is just a deception , therefore forgive people and ignore their short - comings.


๐Ÿ‘‰Pray for one another.

๐Ÿ‘‰Be good to everybody and 

๐Ÿ‘‰Don't cut off your relationship with a person just because he does not please you.

๐Ÿ‘‰Establish unity and harmony with all.


✍️For the LORD Who created all Souls knows what each soul conceals.


May GOD Bless You abundantly!

FEAR GOD

 When you see a jobless man's wife giving birth to triplets yet A TYCOON'S WIFE has prayed to have a child for years, FEAR GOD.


when a degree holder resorts to guarding the gate of a man who never graduated from high school, don't disrespect education, JUST VALUE HUMILITY.


When an ordinary looking lady marries a man that has it all together yet an epitomy of beauty and class has prayed her voice out for a husband with no much success, KNOW IT'S NOT BY LOOK BUT GRACE.


AND


IF YOU SEE A MAN THAT ONCE 

CHANGED CARS LIKE CLOTHES ARGUING OVER THE REPAIR OF HIS ONLY BICYCLE, Approach life with a sense of Godly awe!!!


When you hear that Michael Jackson had more than a  dozen senior doctors for himself yet he died prematurely, YOU WILL KNOW WHO OWNS YOUR BREATH.


When it said in news that a billionaire's only child is ANAEMIC and the only compatible blood is that of a homeless street boy who eats leftover food dumped by the road side, KILL YOUR HAUGHTINESS BEFORE IT KILLS YOU


If after all the medical sophistications and technological advancement, COVID-19 still parades in America and other Western provinces, yet Africans with their "second hand" medical equipment, have very limited cases, 

*I REPEAT, FEAR GOD!!!*

RAISING A SON TODAY


 
It's already past 08:00am. By 8.am your son should be awake participating in the daily chores. He should be active helping around the house. TV should be off.

Many of you are now en route to work but here's the thing. Never ever allow to leave home and leave your son in bed. It's dangerous to you, to him and to the people in the home. You'll be encouraging  the demon of laziness. 


If you want your son to be an early riser in his home when he grows, start teaching him that today. Everyday when u wake up, cross over to his bedroom and pull off the covers. Draw the curtains to let in the sun rays and remind him that it's time to rise and shine. 


As you prepare to go for work, make it a routine to help you prepare. Assign him something that's connected to your going to work. 


You can make your son clean your shoes ๐Ÿ‘  or iron the dress you're going to wear. You can make him prepare your hunkies. You can assign him the role of making you fruit salads which you're carrying to work. The idea here is to make him part of your day. Also it helps him to appreciate routine.


If you have a car, make it his duty to dust it off before you finish taking breakfast... let him clean the interior, take out the trash, open the bonnet and check water and oil levels. Yes... he can do this as early as 07 yrs. This is not something for the gate man to do. This is something for your son to do because it's connected to you. 


It sends a message of team work. As you're going to hassle for him, let him also contribute and hassle for you in these small bits. That's how we train responsibility.


If you left your son in bed today and you're already at work, shame on you!! There's a high possibility that he'll wake up at 10am go for breakfast and then louse around the home doing a lot of nothing.  That's wrong. You're raising a lazy man. 


Make your son part of your morning routine. It's healthy and it's not torture.


Qtn: What has your son done for u this morning???


Sunday, 7 February 2021

Food for thought

You loaned your friend Ushs 4,000,000/= last year BUT since then he has refused to pay back, which has really deteriorated the friendship. You beg him to just pay you Ushs 2,000,000/= and forget the rest because you are in a financial crisis.


Your friend then says he can only get you Ushs 1,500,000/= since that's all he has.

You feel like you have no option but to accept. You give him your account details to send the amount directly to your bank.

You wake up the next morning, check your account and there is Ushs 15,000,000/= in it.

You keep staring at the screen in disbelief but it is indeed 15m.


You grab your phone and find 53 missed calls from him and an additional 27 text messages begging you to transfer back Ushs 13,500,000/= since he only meant to send Ushs 1,500,000/= and accidentally added an extra "0."


As a Christian, what are you supposed to do?

1. Send back Ushs 13,500,000/=?n

2. Take your full Ushs 4,000,000/=?

3. Keep the entire Ushs 15,000,000/=?



*#Food for thought*

Saturday, 6 February 2021

Bishop cancels the transfer after the Priest had destroyed all the plantations at the Parish Centre


When the Bishop cancels the transfer after the Priest had destroyed all the plantations at the Parish Centre.

I remember one Reverend in our area who had planted pineapples.

 He also found at the Church Parish two banana plantations by the parish --- one for the reverend's family, another as a commercial project for the parish.

When the pineapples were a few weeks old, he received a message of transfer. 


Out of anger, he invited his clique of favourable Christians and gave them all ready bananas in both plantations. He slashed down all the pineapples.


The head of laity silently went to the bishop and narrated what the Reverend had just done.

On hearing that, the bishop whispered to the Diocesan Secretary to cancel the transfer. He sent the Reverend a letter: *"On second thought, we felt that your transfer came very soon, and have therefore decided that you stay in the parish until further notice.* May God lead you in His service."


If you were the Reverend, where would you start the sermon from, the following Sunday? ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„

Wednesday, 3 February 2021

think about the future as well

Lesson from the collapse of tuskys, nakumatt etc

I thought as a parent we need to read this

A majority of you are young parents. Most of you have teenagers as your eldest kids.

Listen.

It's entirely your responsibility to hold their hands and mentor them into wealth and business.


I just read in the Business Daily that Gideon Moi is selling Siginon Freight business valued at 10B to a foreign investor. For what it's worth , Moi grew this business as one of africa's largest logistics company. Today we're not talking about his 'source of capital'. That's not the import of the post.


This captures well the shortcomings of Africans.


Every african business built by hustlers to billionaire status is always torn down after inheritance. Kirima, Karume , Tuskys etc are just few examples.


This is attributed to the fact that, instead of you bringing your children close to learn and be protective of the business, you chase them away to hustle. Then who are you building it for?


Also, our education system is very "employment centred".  Why don't you take your kids to school to learn how to come and add value to your business?

Asians do it.

Europeans do it.

Americans do it.

Arabs do it

Africans have retrograde cultures that court poverty.


You Hustle to billionaire status, regardless of the means, but you don't incubate your own kids from an early age. By the time they get to their twenties, they start wishing for your own death to inherit your wealth. The minute they do, they run it down, splurge, sell and their own children start Hustling afresh.


It's like we love poverty so much that our wealth doesn't last two generations.


Americans can proudly talk of 200 or 100 year legacy businesses.


In Kenya, you see a drunk in the local bar and you hear his grandfather was a senior Chief with a lot of wealth.


We are blessed with resources, hard work and talents. However, our own cultures and habits sabotage us.


Henry Ford is a man who started Ford Motor Company. His family has been in the board for generations. As you buy your Ford Ranger, remember that.


Kiichiro Toyoda started Toyota more than 150 years ago. Until today the Toyoda family control stakes in the Lexus, Suzuki and Toyota business. As you buy your Lexus 570 always know that.


Dell Computers, McDonald's, Hyundai, name them.


Atwoli is a billionaire hustler. None of his children are running his enterprise. They are all over the place. 20 years from now, his billions shared amongst his wives and concubines will dissipate. His grandchildren will have to restart afresh.


In Kericho, we have a billionaire family called the Mutai's. Their father worked as a loader at Kericho's first wholesalers called Kericho Wholesalers owned by billionaire Asians.


After many years of working, the Mzee Mutai quit to start his own wholesalers business that was localized.


In few decades, he had built a strong business and he hired all his children. They worked as sales people, accountants, drivers etc. When he passed on, his sons took the hardware and wholesalers business to the next level. They are today, amongst the largest owners of long haul trucks plying the East Africa Corridor. They have never ending contracts with major cement companies and they own some of the best properties in the best area codes of nairobi, Mombasa, europe and australia.


If they induct their children too, they will make it a generational legacy.


Simon Nyachae is another great example of involving your children in the running and management of business from a tender age.


As you start Hustling however small, please educate your children on the principles of business so that they can grow and uphold your work. One day, when you're old, you'll be glad you did.


No, your children won't waste your property, it's your mentorship, your encouragement, your belief in them, your assurances that will make them protective over your legacy.


As you figure out your survival now, please think about the future as well. Don't be that hustler who broke your back only for your grandchildren to work in a mjengo site as if you never existed.